Why Men Don't Have a Clue & Women Always Need More Shoes

I keep adding to my summer reading list. Hopefully I will have time to actually read a whole book soon. But this one is definitely going on my list:  Why Men Don't Have a Clue & Women Always Need More Shoes.  Relationship issues and differences between men and women explained quite well.

"Men and women call each other the "opposite sex" for the same reason - they are opposites. Both men and women have assumptions that they understand each other. However, women have a different way of looking at things compared to men. Having one-track minds, men tend to think in boxes. This means that although men are able to hear the complaints of their wives, they can only process and provide one solution at a time. Focusing on a relationship is not a natural part of the male psyche. In fact, there are times when men just don't try at all, or they give up too early because they find the way women think too complex. Still, this does not mean that men do not aspire for a healthy and fulfilling relationship. For men, preparation is the key. Women also have to stop assuming that a man automatically understands her because he loves her."

Women do not see themselves as naggers, they are merely reminding the men in their lives of things they have neglected to do... And why do women make better naggers?  According to the authors,  "Women's brains are wired for communication, more so than men. That's why women feel that men never say anything, and men feel that women never seem to shut up. The female brain is organized for multi-tracking. This means that women can do 4 to 5 different things at the same time, and can be very detailed about each item. It's typical to see a young mom, anywhere on the planet, holding a baby, while cooking dinner, while talking on the phone to her mother, and writing out a check for a utility, all at the same time!

Male brains, on the other hand, are organized for mono-tracking.

Men can only concentrate on one thing at a time."  Of course it also goes on to explain why nagging never works, but that's a different story.

The book also offers solutions to the mysteries about men, such as why men avoid commitment. Again, according to the authors, "The problem with men is that they do not know that they are in a relationship unless they are told so. Women expect men to be committed after they've gone out together a few times. Men, on the other hand, say, "We are just friends." So girls, if you want to hold on to your man, you better tell him he is all yours.

The list of what turns men and women on are included, as well as answers to why women cry and the danger of emotional blackmail. 

Bottom line is, none of us are perfect, but this one might add some insight to how we can get along.